There is so much to carry, and the world is so heavy. Not just for me, for everyone. In addition to the weight of worry about my children, my husband’s health, my own health, my family’s health and needs—immediate and extended, money, contracts that I haven’t met my obligations to, the actual WORLD is so heavy.
I read a meme recently that said, “Sometimes you can get so busy trying to be everyone else’s anchor that you don’t realize you actually drowning.”
I’m tired, weary and sleepy. It seems everywhere I look there is discontent, atrocity, a lack of loving empathy. It seems there is more to fight about and disagree and divide than I ever knew was possible.
And I want to fix it all. I want to do all the things for all the people and still do all the things for all of me, and maintain my positive energy and go and go and go. Never give up, never surrender.
And then, I am frozen. Frozen from fear, overwhelm, dread, sorrow, confusion. In a brain that tends toward all or nothing, it becomes so very hard to learn to be temperate. To allow for the heartaches and the happiness to fill the same space.
How do we stop setting ourselves on fire to keep others warm? Today, this is my honest struggle, and I have no answers. It becomes hard to think, when one is tired, weary, and sleepy.
Still. If I don’t make dinner, who will? Who will do the dishes? Who will fight for my neurodivergent children, spouse, self and community? Who will write? Who will create? Who will ultimately raise me up, and my family with me, if not me? If I don’t do it, who will? And I still send my love out to the world, as it seems to me to be a weary world that I see.
I took a survey/poll a while back and asked what you guys wanted to see on lifesfinewhine or if there were any specific blogging topics you guys wanted to see me write about and one of the suggestions I got was to write on how I maintain by blog while having a busy life.
I am a full time student at university at the moment and as a history major you can image how busy I can get sometimes with all the reading and writing that comes along with history. I also get super busy with blogging because over the last few years my blog has grown quite a bit and it takes a lot more time to respond to everyone and maintain my blog- not that I’m complaining because I truly do love blogging!
I absolutely love this. I actually had an excellent therapist give me the same advice about worrying and the worst thing that could happen. Self validation always feels harder, the advice to treat yourself as a friend—just wow. Thank you, I needed this today!
It’s so easy to forget you’re human. I need to revisit this topic for my own sanity.
If you’re anything like me — and God help you if you are, you’re fairly hard on yourself. You can spend a lot of money trying to figure out why you’re like this, or you can just accept it as fact.
People who are hard on themselves usually spend a lot of time thinking about the way they did something or said something, presented themselves, worked on a project, planned a presentation; pretty much scrutinize every aspect of their lives. You go over it in your head a dozen times. This process, although it can keep you awake at night, is not necessarily a bad thing. It might be healthier to come up with an alternative that would be more productive the next time you do whatever it is that you’ve done.
How do we find our fire again, now that we are finally recovering from the world burning down? I feel like I’m walking out of my front door naked with nothing but an emergency blanket around me, wide eyed and disheveled. Trying to convince myself again that the future is bright, that it is ok to dream, that it’s ok to continue to try. Continue to explore and create and fail and laugh and succeed.
I wonder how the rest of the world is feeling right now? Do you feel like you’re emerging from a disheveled trauma, too? It’s hard, sometimes, to trust that things can be good. But then again, sometimes it’s good to know what we were missing, so we can appreciate it again. We make it to more appointments than we used to now. We talk to our friends and family more now. We make stronger efforts to see their beautiful faces, in person. Suddenly, even going to the store is about one thousand percent less awful. There is so much visible joy on people’s faces where I used to only see threats and scowls.
There seems to be a palpable excitement about being alive. A delicious appreciation for the simple things and freedoms once taken for granted. There’s courtesy in the stores, respectful distances, excuse me’s and smiles. I know, of course, that not everything is sunshine and it never will be. But the sunshine feels just a bit more like golden honey dripping down on my skin that it used to, and therein lies the gift of weathering a long storm.
Perhaps, this time, we will do better. Perhaps we won’t. Regardless, I’m rather grateful that we still have the opportunity to decide whether or not to try. And with that, I will embrace my fire for living and trying and loving and I hope you get to, too.
Have you ever considered hiring a consultant for your business? You might have wondered if investing in consulting services would really benefit your company, or even felt confused about which type of consultant to hire for your specific needs. Navigating the world of consulting can be confusing – for instance, while a business consultant like The Happy Typist could help with your content strategy, you would need an IT consultant to address technical issues.
To help you know where to turn, here are a few different types of consultants that are worth the price for your business.
A financial consultant can tackle everything from setting up a new accounting system for your business to helping you make a persuasive case to potential investors. In addition, a financial consultant can also help you select the right entity for your business before you launch, or switch to a new entity if your business needs change in the future.
Many business owners enjoy a wide range of benefits after forming an LLC, including attractive tax breaks, but every state has their own regulations for filing, so research the process before you get started. You could hire a lawyer for help, or you could save money by using an online formation service for Wyoming LLC reg.
What does a strategy consultant do? Heflo states that a strategy consultant can help you design and implement effective new business processes and even update your business model if necessary. A strategy consultant will evaluate your company and the overall market conditions in your sector to ensure that your business strategy allows you to meet consumer demands. If you’re struggling to scale up and deliver sustainable results, you need a strategy consultant.
Are worried that your current management structure is holding your company back? AfrinoMix Consulting states that a management consultant can hone in on organizational effectiveness to resolve problems – basically, they target potential improvements in your company’s approach to team management in order to help you accomplish bigger goals as an organization. A management consultant will generally work closely with your human resources department to advocate for beneficial changes.
Are you having technical troubles at your company? Maybe you need help with an IT problem but you don’t necessarily need to hire a full-time, IT support professional. Calling in an IT consultant for advice could be the right move! IT consultants generally provide a wide range of services, and depending on their area of expertise, they can assist you with everything from setting up a cloud storage system for your company to establishing cybersecurity protections. They can also make recommendations for technical equipment.
You came up with a fantastic business idea, but your marketing skills are lacking. Many business owners face this problem, and that’s where marketing consultants come into the picture! A marketing consultant could guide you through developing an entirely new marketing plan, launching an ambitious advertising campaign, or designing a customer retention strategy. They could also identify opportunities to reach new consumers or utilize different platforms for advertising. Marketing consultants can even help their clients expand into entirely new markets! Some marketing consultants specifically work with clients on projects like personal branding or public relations strategies.
Working with a consultant can help quickly address problems that have been plaguing your business. In the long run, a savvy consultant can help you save money and optimize your business operations. With these tips, you’ll be able to find a consultant who specializes in the services that your business needs!